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Anya’s 10th Birthday Letter

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Happy 10th Birthday, Anya!

You are becoming a preteen, but you understand the responsibility that comes with getting older, so you are perfectly happy to put off drama and boys for a later date and stay a kid as long as you can. I won’t pretend I’m not grateful for your wisdom that ironically helps you make more mature decisions, and I’m always so proud to hear how steadfast you are in your interests and beliefs no matter what your peers do to belittle them in the name of appearing more grown up. You don’t understand their rush, and I am so very glad that you feel comfortable talking to me about everything and discussing our opinions on how to handle social pressures and whether something is actually appropriate for your age.

Despite having to have some conversations about what growing up has in store for you, you have somehow maintained a youthful innocence that I adore. You believe in magic. You unashamedly love everything pink and sparkly, princesses and unicorns, playing dress up, watching Sailor Moon with me, and creating fairytales of your own. You have aspirations in the arts, especially dance, music, and storytelling, and have developed a recent fascination with mythology and astronomy that reminds me of my own middle school years. You are my mini me in so many ways, and it’s humbling and comforting to know that you are proud of that.

I hope you will never be afraid to talk to me, to ask your questions and tell me your views. Sometimes you blow me away with your observations about our Christian faith and the way the world works. You wear our shared Asperger’s diagnosis like a badge of honor, and I’m thankful that somehow I’ve done enough of this parenting thing right to give you a firm foundation in your sense of self that took me decades to even begin to achieve.

Don’t let anyone dim your light; the world will be a better place because you dare to dream and shine even against the bleakest darkness. Be exactly who you are, always, magic and all. We love you and are so proud of the young lady you are becoming. Happy Birthday. 💖🦄👑

Our Fall 2019 Homeschool Routine/Schedule

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Current Music: the kids watching Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers on Netflix

I know how much everyone that homeschools (or is thinking about it!) loves to read details of how others make it work for their family, so I decided to share how our routine has changed going into this school year. I have officially started to lean in a more relaxed direction, so we don’t strive to check every box or even complete curricula within the calendar year anymore. Instead, we just take it one page/lesson/chapter at a time and move to the next book on our list as we complete something. It has made a world of difference in my stress levels and given the kids a bit more free time because we aren’t frantically trying to get all the things done by a certain timeframe. Ironically, after beginning this method sometime during the course of last school year, we actually made it through more materials than we had in previous years. Maybe it’s just the feeling of being more in control of our learning instead of it controlling us, but whatever the reason we’re sticking with it moving forward.

This year, we have a 5th grader, kindergartener, and little preschool-aged brother tagging along but not doing anything formal. Our week always changes a bit each semester as activity schedules change for our myriad of extracurriculars for the older two, including dance, gymnastics, piano lessons, and Girl Scout meetings and events. We are also not morning people and choose to let the kids stay up a bit later than most because it works for us. We’re usually up around 9 or so in the mornings, and bedtime for the kids is around 9PM, though sometimes it gets closer to 10 depending on the day. All three kids have a chore chart in order to earn screen time that includes making beds, completing school and piano practice, cleaning up any toys they got out, and asking if there’s anything I’d like their help with. They complete these at their leisure, other than school/piano since it’s built into our routine, and no one is allowed to do any electronics that take up the TV and will be distracting to those still working until everyone is done with school. If they choose to use their screen time while a sibling is still working, they must use handheld devices with the volume down or headphones in. Sometimes we limit the amount of screen time more than others, but if they are using educational apps or taking their own breaks to play pretend or with toys or do something creative, I feel less need to step in and require them to turn off the electronics for a bit.

During my eldest’s independent work, I’m free to work on my own grad school assignments, administrative stuff, etc. and complete any chores I deem necessary for the day. I will say, that I hired out regular house cleaning a long time ago, so my husband and I mostly worry about clutter, laundry, and kitchen-related duties in between kid wrangling and our other commitments for work and education. Our school day lasts as long as it does because my eldest wants to listen to her sister’s read alouds and sometimes takes her time working through her subjects while listening to music and interacting with everyone else. She knows she only takes her own time if she dawdles too much, as I require her to work through all her subjects before she can call the day done on the school front.

Here’s a little breakdown of how most of our school days go:

10:00 AM Kindergarten Bible, History, Literature/Poetry, and Science Read Alouds with Mom
10:30 AM Kindergarten Math, Handwriting, and Phonics/Reading with Mom
5th Grade Independent Piano Practice
11:00 AM Kindergarten Independent Piano Practice and Computer Keyboarding
5th Grade Spelling with Mom
11:30 AM Kindergarten Complete for the Day
5th Grade Bible, History, Literature/Poetry, and Science Read Alouds with Mom
12:00 PM Lunch – 5th Grade Read Alouds Continued with Mom
(Independent Audible and/or Internet-Linked Resources while Mom prepares food)
1:00 PM 5th Grade Independent Science, Language Arts, Computer Keyboarding, and Math
3:00 PM to 4:00 PM School Day Ends as all subjects are completed

If we have extracurricular activities, which we do at least three or four days a week, we usually have to leave the house anywhere between 1 PM and 3 PM to arrive on time. The 5th grader takes anything she hasn’t completed with her in a backpack, including her iPad for access to her online math software and internet-linked materials. Because we finish anything that requires my help or participation by the time lunch is over, she is able to easily work on her own in the car and while waiting if the activity we’re at that day is for the kindergartener. Other school years we’ve usually had one day that’s heavier on being away from home than others and so instituted four-day school weeks a long time ago. This year, things are more spread out, but my eldest decided she would rather take work on the go and still get a third full day off each week than to divide the work we do into the times we are home around activities throughout the week. So, for this semester, at least, we take Friday’s off from homeschool work. The kids get a three-day weekend, aside from any extracurriculars we may need to attend on those days. It can make for some full days for the 5th grader Monday through Thursday because she is basically doing school and/or activities until dinner if we aren’t home all afternoon, but she still prefers it, and we’re usually home a day or two each week for her to finish up at normal time and play for the two or three hours until dinner. I also really enjoy the three day weekends for extra time to get things done for myself that I’ve maybe been putting off during the first part of the week while working with the kids.

Sometimes, our school-day mornings get away from us, and we don’t start school until 11 or even noon, but everything can still be done by dinner because of how we organize our work and don’t take on more than we can handle in any given subject each day. My eldest is given a lot of freedom with the order that she does her independent work in, which has helped a lot with previous issues dragging her feet through her work. We work together to find the best curricula that fit her needs and meet my requirements if something isn’t working for her or is causing a lot of pushback. By getting to choose which things she does next as she works, it gives her enough control to not feel like she has to fight me about getting the schoolwork done, even when she’s having a rough day. By switching to a relaxed next page/lesson/chapter methodology, even on the worst days, she can complete every subject easily by dinner because the work required in each subject is in small, manageable chunks. Going into this semester, we have so far had the least stressful experience of homeschooling we’ve had since she began more formal work in 1st grade. I’m a recovering box checker, and the benefits are definitely encouraging me to stay on the proverbial relaxed homeschooling wagon!

Our 5th Grade Curriculum Choices for the 2019-2020 Homeschool Year

As relaxed-ish homeschoolers, we still follow the general guidelines of workbooks and curricula that we have loved in the past, but we are no longer feeling beholden to checking every box by a certain point in the year or using every aspect of something if it doesn’t work well for our needs as a family on the spectrum. We try to touch on each subject every day that we do school, but if things are taking a little longer or we’re feeling a little burned out, we just start where we left off the following day to ensure we are not missing any particular subject repeatedly. My main goal with subjects like history, Bible, literature, and science is exposure to the ideas, while I prioritize daily practice in small chunks of math and language arts concepts so we don’t lose new skills from the lack of repetition. With that in mind, here is what we are using going into the fall semester of Anya’s 5th grade year:

History
Sonlight Core E (American History Year 2 of 2):
We completed reading the materials up to the beginning of WWII last year, so that is where we will be picking up this year.*

Sonlight Core F (Eastern Hemisphere):
Once we complete Core E, we will be moving on to Core F, probably after the Holidays. We’ll likely make it through a study of the East Asian countries in the program before breaking for summer.*

Bible
Sonlight Core E (Starting Strong Series):
We completed two of the three studies included in the collection provided by Sonlight for this Core. We will begin the fall semester with the final book.**

Sonlight Core F (Case for Kids Series):
We will move right into Case for a Creator for the rest of the fall semester, with plans to continue into Case for Christ and Case for Faith in the spring.**

Literature
Sonlight Core E (American History Year 2 of 2):
We will be reading through the remaining books that accompany the WWII materials, as well as a few just for fun titles included in Sonlight’s program. We also added the rest of the Logan family saga to our Audible list rather than only reading Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry on its own.***

Sonlight Core F (Eastern Hemisphere):
As with history, we will read through the titles that correlate to the East Asian nations for our spring semester literature and see where things go from there. Living in Japan means we will probably spend a bit more time on this portion of the Core.

Science
Sonlight Science E (Electricity, Magnetism, & Astronomy):
We only have a couple of titles left from this Core to finish up during the fall semester, along with about half of the experiments. Interests in astrology and mythology were spurred by the astronomy materials last semester, so we’ll be exploring that a bit on our own, as well.*

Sonlight Science F (Health, Medicine, & Anatomy):
We’ll move into these materials as we finish up Science E. I decided to swap out the nutrition-related experiment book for a DK book about nutrition that we will read through together instead. Involved experiments are not realistic for us, and they would just end up left undone.*

Math
Teaching Textbooks (Math 5 and Math 6):
We switched from Saxon Math to TT after the Holidays last year, and it has gone very well. She has finished over half of the program and will keep working through the lessons this semester, moving on to the next level once completed.

Life of Fred (Elementary Series):
She just began using this series when we switched to TT, and it has been a lot of fun! She’ll continue reading through them at her own pace, beginning with Book D for this semester. Applying math to real life was alluding her, and this has helped tremendously.

xtramath.org:
Free, timed math fact practice. Finishing up multiplication this semester and moving on to division facts soon.

Language Arts
Sonlight Core E Readers:
She still had a couple of just-for-fun titles left from Core E that she began reading through over the summer, and there weren’t really any historical readers that needed to be held off for the WWII portion of the Core, so she has already almost finished these materials a few weeks into the semester. We added in additional novels based on her interests instead, such as the Pandora series and fairytale sagas by E.D. Baker.

Sonlight Core F Readers:
As with history, she will begin reading the novels that correlate to East Asian studies when we begin working on Core F materials as a whole, probably after the Holidays.

Handwriting Without Tears (4th and 5th Grade):
She has already almost completed the last few pages of the 4th-grade cursive workbook from last year and will now be moving into the 5th-grade cursive workbook for the rest of the fall semester. She plans to then complete the print review workbook afterward for extra practice because dysgraphia has made writing neatly a struggle. We only use the workbooks, which she does independently.

Easy Grammar (Grade 4 and Grade 5):
A couple of pages of this a day keeps her up to speed with grammar mechanics and identifying parts of speech. She had a few weeks of Grade 4 to finish up this month but has now begun Grade 5. She does this independently and checks her own work to identify mistakes.

Wordly Wise Vocabulary (Book 4 and Book 5):
She had about three lessons left of Book 4 at the beginning of this semester, so she will be completing what is still left of those before moving on to Book 5 in a couple of weeks. We only use the workbooks, which she does independently.

All About Spelling (Level 5):
She is about halfway through this level. We will continue on to the next levels as she is ready, as the program is designed.

Essentials in Writing (Level 4):
I had been feeling for a while that composition was a weak point in our homeschooling. We tried a lot of different things before finally trying this program about halfway through the spring semester last year. I was okay starting her out in Level 4 because I felt she needed the extra instruction and practice. We’ll move on to the next level as she completes this one, whenever that ends up being. She enjoys the online teacher videos and fun design of the accompanying workbook.

Keyboarding
Keyboarding Without Tears (5th Grade):
She completed all of the 4th-grade program last year, so we began the new school year with the 5th-grade level. She will be sad to complete this final year of keyboarding using these materials, as it has been a source of a lot of random knowledge that correlated to other things she’d learned and a fun part of her school day because of the game-like presentation.

Music
Piano Lessons:
Once weekly piano lessons with an instructor, with daily practice and recitals twice a year. This will be her seventh year of piano, and she still loves it.

P.E.
Ballet Classes:
She is cutting back to just two ballet classes at the dance studio each week this semester, as adding in jazz, tap, and contemporary last year ended up being very stressful for her. She would never admit it, but having almost every weekday be just school, dance, sleep, repeat was very draining for her. She is doing much better with more free time after school. She will still have a recital at the end of each semester. This will also be her seventh year of ballet.

Art
We have been attempting a formal art curriculum every year we have homeschooled and never made it very far. It would be the first thing to go when a day got overwhelming. This semester I have instead opted to make sketchbooks, art supplies, how-to-draw books, etc. more accessible for every-day use, and she is enjoying being able to pursue art in the direction she so chooses (currently anime and fairytale illustrations).

Extracurriculars
Girl Scouts:
She has been in Scouts since kindergarten and will be continuing as a second-year Junior this year. We are careful not to overdo it by opting out of events that don’t jive with our internal clocks or sensory needs when we feel it is reasonable to do so. She saves her energy for attending overnight camp at the end of the year, as it is something that is important to her.

*We read the books provided by Sonlight, but we do not use any other part of the IG or extra activities. It was more than we could realistically handle. Instead, we use the internet links from any Usborne books in the program for a fun way to make the information more engaging for Anya, whose interest in history and science is limited only to things that relate to her other existing special interests. I have been relying only on the schedule from Sonlight, but moving forward, I won’t be purchasing an IG at all. We will instead work our way through the books that we would like to use from the program at our own pace in the order we choose, eliminating some cost and books that we have learned from experience won’t be a good fit.

**We do not do any of the extra scripture reading or memorization scheduled by Sonlight. We simply do the devotionals and related reading together, otherwise discussing Biblical topics as they come up naturally in our household. We often read other Bible story materials together and have lots of such resources available all over the house.

***We divide literature up between Audible in the car and read-alouds on the couch, and we like to add in sequels and prequels to books listed by Sonlight every chance we get, which extends the time needed to finish a Core’s worth of reading. We don’t do discussion questions or activities from the IG; we just discuss naturally as we read and things come up in the day-to-day that relate to the material.

1 in 4

I should have had a baby this week. Our family should’ve grown by one to reach a grand total of six. I should’ve been watching Anya and Marie fawning over a new brother or sister, while Benjamin’s adorable fascination with babies overwhelmed us all with an overload of cute. He would be the sweetest, gentlest of big brothers. And I hope someday he gets to be one; but, unfortunately, that day isn’t today.

Today, I’m grieving the loss of a child I never held or named. One that existed only for a moment in my mind’s eye. The pregnancy was unplanned, but I fell in love the second that pink line appeared. I wasn’t ready for another baby, it’s true…but during the twelve or so hours between that positive test and the first signs of miscarriage, I convinced myself otherwise. I got excited. I daydreamed. I hoped. And then, as quickly as it arrived, that hope vanished.

I spent several weeks in a pretty dark depression, one I posted about online here and there without revealing the reason. I wasn’t ready to share just yet. I usually share everything, but this was my first loss. Every other pregnancy has ended in a beautiful baby placed in my arms and sent home with me to grow into the three amazing children that we already have. I never once for a moment believed that this one would be any different…until it was. It happened in November, just before the Holidays, which I’m sure didn’t help matters.

It still feels surreal that I was pregnant at all, while at the same time it seems impossible that the pregnancy was so short-lived. The kids don’t know; it wouldn’t be right to tell them and put them through this grief, so as parents we are mourning alone. There aren’t any more babies in the cards for us right now; the housing situation and lackluster medical care options available to us here in Okinawa just aren’t something I want to deal with through another pregnancy. My last overseas birth resulted in an intense postpartum depression that kickstarted years of autistic burnout from which I’m still not entirely recovered. My health is an issue, too, and I need to figure out what is going on there before I add anything else to the mix.

But, logic doesn’t sway the longing I feel for another baby or the intense reaction to the loss of this child we weren’t expecting. The kids are always asking when they will get another sibling; they have baby fever worse than I do, it seems. It fills me with joy to know that the love they have for one another is so strong and sure, that the idea of adding another member to their bond is a given to them. There is no fear or jealousy, just…love. And a desire to nurture and care for one another that seems innate to their precious little personalities. Knowing how much it would add to their lives for this child to have become reality makes it that much more difficult for me to process and bear.

I know it’s not the thing I should want right now; that it makes absolutely no sense to even consider it until I am healthier and preferably when we are no longer stationed overseas. I think it scares me a bit to know I’ll be in my mid-30’s by then, and considering the alphabet soup of diagnoses already present in our family that rolling those dice becomes exponentially riskier by then. It makes me feel like a clock is ticking, but life circumstances dictate that I must wait and potentially miss the opportunity to have another child entirely.

I try to convince myself to be content. I have three amazing kids; I need to be okay with this being it for me. They need to be enough. And they are. I had already accepted that three might be all we can handle for a multitude of reasons…but then that test turned positive, and it just completely wrecked all of the delicate scaffolding built through the mental gymnastics of putting the tangible realities ahead of my emotional desires.

I’ve been slowly rebuilding it, knowing that the best thing I can do is concentrate on myself and providing the best possible childhood for Anya, Marie, and Benjamin right now. They are here and need their mother; that keeps me going. I know I am blessed to have never experienced the loss of a pregnancy before now. I know the statistics. But that doesn’t dull the pain of knowing what could have been.

How I Finally Told My Daughter About Our Shared Autism Diagnosis And Why I Wish I Hadn’t Waited

While I have been fairly certain of our family’s various neurodivergences for quite some time, only my eldest daughter Anya and I each have an official diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome. We were both diagnosed by the same psychologist upon our first visit to his office about three years ago, and although over the course of our sessions there, he verbally confirmed my suspicions concerning my younger two children, they weren’t technically his patients to diagnose.

Earlier this year, I finally set myself to the task of jumping through the hoops necessary to get an official diagnosis of ADHD for my middle daughter Marie and Autism for my son Ben, the resident baby of the family. Since ADHD varies a bit from my own atypical brain wiring, I’ve been eagerly reading and researching how this neurotype could present in my middle child’s behavior, which led to the realization that she is likely dyslexic, as well. Being homeschoolers, this immediately helped our recent struggles with teaching her to read with the same materials that my eldest had breezed through make sense, and I set out to discover what curriculum might be a better fit.

Honestly, that is another entire story, but it is relevant here because my eldest was listening (she is ALWAYS listening) as I talked over our options with my husband and called my mother to talk incessantly about weighing the pros and cons of different materials. (I mean, isn’t that how you process picking out your curricula?) Finally, a couple of months ago Anya started asking questions about her sister’s differing needs, and I explained to her that dyslexia means that Marie’s brain works a little differently when it comes to processing information and experiencing the world; that meant we’d have to approach things a little differently for her. Without skipping a beat, Anya said, “I know I’m not dyslexic because reading is SO easy for me, but…” Then she asked, point blank, “Do I have something else like that?” as her eyes searched my face longingly for an answer that might explain how she was feeling.

Now, I had known the time was coming for us to have this discussion. Her psychologist had recommended that we not tell her about her diagnosis until she was around 10; it was his experience that kids any younger used it as an excuse for misbehavior. At the time, I listened because this was all new to us. In retrospect, however, I feel quite differently. (More on that in a moment.) Anywho, I had been preparing over the past few months as I sensed her getting curious and, frankly, a bit confused about how she was being interpreted by others. I had a couple of books set aside, one a picture book from the perspective of a young girl with Asperger’s and another a collection of anecdotes from girls on the spectrum and their parents, both discussing the challenges and celebrating the advantages of life as an Autistic female. I wasn’t sure how I would broach the subject, but I knew I would just handle it naturally as I have any other question Anya has had about more mature subjects over the years.

The time had come a bit early, as Anya turned 9 last fall, but I didn’t let the silence linger after her pointed question; instead, I went straight to my room for the books, and then we sat on my bed as I explained:

  • You and Mommy both have something in common that makes us different from many other people. We are Autistic. That means our brains work differently from what is considered “normal” in society.
  • Emotions can be hard and feel really big to us. That’s why it’s difficult to hold in excitement, anger, or sadness. It’s also why things that scare you feel so overwhelming and might cause you to panic.
  • Our senses are more sensitive. We smell, taste, hear, feel, and see everything stronger and more vividly, which can cause us to get overstimulated and either shut down or have a meltdown.
  • Even though some of these things are harder for us, some things are easier for us. We each have gifts that we wouldn’t have without Asperger’s. Like, how we both read so quickly and understand complicated vocabulary, and how you remember the tiniest of details from a long time ago, sometimes even what day of the week something happened.
  • The things that we like become things that we love with every fiber of our being, and we put a lot of energy into those things to know a lot about them or be better at them than we might otherwise.
  • All of this explains why you might feel different from your friends; why sometimes the things they do don’t make sense to you, and why other times they don’t understand why you make certain choices or behave in certain ways.
  • None of this means there is anything wrong with us. We just have a different brain, and there are lots of other people out there just like us. Autism is just a different way of thinking and being, and it is perfectly okay to be the way that we are.
  • We should still do our best to work on ourselves when we do things that could be harmful to ourselves or others; everyone should. But, we don’t have to do everything the same way as everyone else.
  • Doing things our own way, though, will sometimes cause people to be mean or tell us we’re doing something wrong. It’s going to take time for the world to see Autism the way we do, and until then you just have to be brave and strong and stand up for what you need and what you know is right.
  • Don’t let other people make you feel like you are worth any less than them, and don’t ever be afraid to be who you are. You have so much to offer the world because of the way your brain works. Be proud of that.

Then, I handed her the books and told her I’d been saving them for this day. She smiled and shimmied into a comfy spot on the bed with excitement as she opened the picture book and began to read. Every few seconds she exclaimed, “Oh, that is SO me,” and “That is DEFINITELY me,” as she read about the experiences of the little Autistic girl in the book navigating her day. When she was done, she looked at me, beaming with pride. I told her she could ask me questions any time she needed to, and I told her exactly what her psychologist had said that had influenced our decision not to disclose her diagnosis to her until now. She told me she understands but she is happy to know now and proud that we are the same.

In the weeks since, our days have been filled with realizations of, “Oh, that’s why I do THAT!” and questions like “Mommy, is this because I’m Autistic?” I answer her honestly, helping her figure out her newfound identity, one I’ve embraced for myself over the past three years. And as these wonderful, in-depth conversations fill the moments between homeschool work and ballet classes, I’ve made my own new realization: I never should have kept this part of her life from her, this core piece of who she is. We would have still needed to have a more thorough, serious conversation at some point, but I wish I hadn’t avoided mentioning it in the day-to-day.

I wish I had kept the topic of Autism and how our lives are shaped by being on the spectrum sprinkled into normal conversations and events as we’ve done over the past month or so. The difference in our connection as a family and in Anya’s behavior and self-awareness has been absolutely amazing. She was already doing phenomenally with trying new things and talking herself through difficult scenarios after attending therapy for the past few years to help her cope with changes and process emotions, but this just gave her the missing information she needed to understand why that was even necessary. Having that knowledge has made a world of difference in her anxiety and helped her to be much more mindful and cooperative at home. (Not that she was super rebellious before, but now and again we could butt heads and dig our heels in against each other on something.)

She sees the world the same way she always has, but it’s like the color has been turned up a notch in the best possible way. I’m loving the renewed atmosphere of our home and confidence I see in both of us as we take on the world together. She is able to help me determine when certain assignments or curricula aren’t fitting her needs and why, and that is SO much less frustrating than me guessing based on my own assumptions. Our school days are going so beautifully now that she feels like she has a say and can understand why we need to change up things just here and there, such as when her coexisting dysgraphia makes writing too much by hand difficult. She is just…thriving in a whole new way.

The real question is, I suppose, why did I, a proud Autistic woman fighting for acceptance and the normalization of neurodiversity, allow the doubt of others not on the spectrum to creep into my psyche and inform when I would talk about Autism more openly in my own home? Honestly, I’m still figuring this all out for myself. Years of being told you aren’t good enough as a person does a number on your self-confidence. You start to believe the naysayers and doubt your own judgment. These last few years I’ve been slowly pulling myself out of that hole, but it hasn’t been easy or perfect.

Knowing who I really am has made all the difference in my own self-perception and abilities, and I should have known it would do the same for my daughter. After all, she is a piece of me, too, and I a part of her. I will never make the mistake of hiding any part of what makes myself or each of my children uniquely themselves again. It’s too important; for them and for the change we want to be and see in the world that currently misunderstands so much about us. We are not ashamed. We are here, and we are not broken. We will not hide any longer. We are Autistic, and we are proud. When you know better, you do better, and the world has a lot of learning to do.

You can find the books I gave my daughter here and here.

April is Autism Acceptance Month. Learn more here.